When I was in college, a friend told me she didn’t know what an orgasm feels like. I was like “Okay, so you have never masturbated?” She didn’t answer my question, but what I already knew is she was talking about the G-spot orgasm that you can experience while having sex. Unfortunately, not every woman is lucky enough to experience female orgasms. I mean, not every woman is lucky enough to have a guy who’d give her an orgasm. Yeah, read that again.
Guys like to talk a lot before sex…
But after sex…
..and you didn’t. As sad as it sounds, they are the ones talking about orgasms most of the time. And they are especially fascinated by the female orgasm. Even though the concept is not new, there are still some things you probably don’t know about the Big O. So, here I have decided to debunk the myths of the female orgasm and shed light on the subject. And even if after reading this, your boyfriend makes you feel orgasm-deprived, dump him.
You Don’t Have to be a Wizard to Have an Orgasm
You can easily have an orgasm if your partner knows how to hit the right spot. I mean, the G spot. It is inside your vagina and on the front wall. When you are turned on it swells and expands up to a few inches. So, it’s quite easy to locate the G if your partner is observant enough. However, it is also believed that not everyone has that G-spot. But the best way to find out is by sticking a finger deep inside and making that come hither motion.
If you get a satisfying feeling of being “touched”, that is it. Worry no more because you are not in that 10-15% of women that can’t get off. And the situation is called Anorgasmia.
However, Female Orgasms Are Not All About Penetration
If you have been in a situation where the guy asked you if you came, right after having sex, chances are he didn’t know what he was talking about. It might take time, patience, and skill to make a girl come only through penetration. But there is a quick trick out there that work as an alternative. The clitoris is easier to stimulate than the G spot and most of the time, if not always is the reason for female pleasure. Clitoris orgasms are super satisfying and you can also achieve it through oral sex, fingering, or using sex toys.
One of the Biggest Privilege of Women is Multiple Orgasms
Only men can have an orgasm and go to sleep the next minute. We women were gifted with the possibility of having multiple orgasms and that too during one session. How cool is that? But unfortunately, many people don’t know this already, and they don’t try to achieve it either. Now that you know it, however, ask your partner to keep stimulating you to experience multiple peaks of pleasure and enhance your sexual experience. If you are a guy reading this, don’t get jealous. Instead, take this as a sexy opportunity to satisfy your girl in bed.
Female Orgasms Happen in Brain First and then In Your Body
It’s not only about female orgasms though, orgasms in general happen in your brain first. If you asked me what a female orgasm feels like, I would say that it feels like I’m on top of the world. That’s a pretty short answer. But scientifically speaking, during an orgasm, multiple parts in your brain including the prefrontal cortex, amygdala, and nucleus accumbens are activated. These areas produce pleasure, reward, and emotional processing in our brains. But how does your brain know that you are having an orgasm?
The answer is, you can have an orgasm without physical stimulation as well. Sure, it takes a lot to go there, and you might not even go there as well, but contrary to what I said earlier, genital stimulation is not important for real female orgasm. Physical stimulation increases your chance of having an orgasm by 60%. But the rest 40% depends on how turned on you are mentally and emotionally. Now you have another reason why women don’t come as much as they want during hookups.
Female Orgasms Have Multiple Health Benefits
Of course, before having an orgasm, we don’t calculate the benefits. We want it because it’s impossible to resist. But besides being pleasurable, there are some health benefits of female orgasm I thought you might wanna know. First, it removes period cramps and improves your mood. I know having sex during your red days is kinda tricky and messy, but it works. It can also release stress, improve your sleep, and strengthen your pelvic floor muscles.
The Chance of Achieving an Orgasm is Greater in Your Periods
You might be one of those women who can experience heightened sensitivity and a greater likelihood of achieving orgasm while you are on your period. It happens because when you are in one of the phases of your menstrual cycle, your estrogen level spikes up. And since estrogen helped you become a woman, both mentally and physically, you will crave sex more and will also be able to receive it more. That means double the chances of orgasms.
Moreover, it is also recorded that anal orgasm is more common than the popular types of female orgasm. So, you have one more way of doing things. A friendly reminder.
Females May Get Extra Touchy-Touchy After An Orgasm
It’s not only about females though. After having an orgasm, our brain releases oxytocin which is popularly known as the “love hormone”. This hormone improves our bonding with the person we are having sex with. It helps to build trust, improves bonding, and deepens emotional connection and intimacy. And this is the reason why, so many girls broke their hearts by hooking up with a stranger. No kidding. Also, this is the reason why many friends with benefits have turned to marriages.
Your Chances of Having an Orgasm is Higher with a Lesbian Partner
I mean, now you know why everyone’s coming out… Statistics show that only straight women have orgasms only 62% of the time. But the number is higher for lesbians by 75%. The reason for it is quite obvious. We girls have the same machines running and we know how to satisfy ourselves, so we instinctively know how to satisfy a female partner. 🤷♀️
Women Fake Orgasms 78% Of the Time
Hollywood movies show women having orgasms every time they have sex. That’s not the reality, and even if it is, no one told you that they could be faking it 🤷♀️. In fact, women fake orgasms for different reasons. They do it to avoid upsetting their partners, to please their partners, and because their partners were unskilled. Maybe fake it til you make it is a thing, but not appropriate for real female orgasms. It could also be for ending the sexual encounter faster 🤷♀️.
Female Orgasm Rule: Don’t Fake It
I know it’s difficult to even say it, but I’m gonna write it down. If you are faking an orgasm every time you are having sex, you are lying to yourself, and your partner. However, at the same time, you will have to keep in mind that you might not experience a G-spot orgasm if you don’t have the G. Also, 40% of women can’t orgasm at all given that it is mainly the brain’s activity. What you can do is communicate with your partner. I mean, that’s the best thing you could do because, after all, sex is not everything. Trust, honest communication, and a solid friendship keep a relationship going.
You can also try the best sex positions for female orgasms to increase your chances of getting off. But just remember whatever you have seen in female orgasm porn videos, isn’t probably real. And this is for guys; seeing that female orgasm face requires more of your skills than anything else.